My experience with finishes runs the gamut from A to B. Oil for open grain like Mahogany, varnish for closer grained like Walnut and your Sapele. I could probably give you better advice on chasing away daughters of which I have three. Two of them still talk to me though.

Lately I’ve overcome my resistance to the plasticky look of urethane with General Finish Armor Seal, and for a high wear use like you’re building, I would recommend it. It’s tougher than varnish alone but looks almost as natural as oil.

Another vote for General Finishes Arm-R-Seal for a table top that will have heavy use like a kitchen table or coffee table. I’m not sure if it will match your needs for low odor, which it isn’t. For finishes that cure upon exposure to air, like this one and some of the others you listed, get the smallest can that will handle the project and I’d suggest a can of Bloxygen. Otherwise, you will likely throw out a lot of unused, gunky finish. Arm-R-Seal likes to run on vertical surfaces, so use thin coats. It’s actually pretty easy to apply.

If low stink is an absolute requirement, my next choice would be General Finishes High Performance, which is a water born finish. I’d want to look up others’ experiences with this on a kitchen table. I used it for a desk.